Chrisette Michele said it best” It’s time to start acting right, get myself together, grow up and get my mind right…. Time to start making big girl doe and step out my jeans and put my grown clothes own …I’m a big girl now”. When are we as women going to step out and grow up? We constantly say we are on our “grown woman” but are we truly grown or are we just playing make-believe.
Black women in today’s society are constantly screaming they are independent and how they don’t need a man. We say we are all about our “poker chips” but when the chips are gone we hold our hand out to the nearest man to suffice our monetary needs , well at least until the next check come, right. Even when the checks are in we still feel as if they are suppose to take care of us when we are truly suppose to take care of them. Remember we are the caregiver and he is the protector. For years women have been the backbone of our society, through history lessons it has been proven that we can make it on our own, we can hold the home down and we can be independent while during so.
Many women have lost sight of this aspect of being a woman. We constantly hide behind our families to help us find our way and push us in the right direction, instead of stepping out on faith. While some, instead of relying on their family, marry the first guy that say he loves them, not knowing that a marriage is a lifetime commitment and a lot of these guys out here are not ready for that, causing the woman to be a single parent while still married. We have to get it together ladies if not we will never become the person we are destined to be and in return settling for a life of misery, depression and regret.
Now I know there are some women who have their “ish” together and on a path of good fortune, fun times, and true happiness and we should salute those women, but there are many who have begun to settle for the life they have fallen into and it is sad. We need to get back to the basics and do what makes us happy. If going to school makes you happy, do it. If starting your own business makes you happy, do it. Just do it, no more excuses and no more what-if’s, remember Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither were you. Be the you, are destined to be and stop settling for less, remember we are descendants of kings and queens. We come from a place where women held the home down with a man or without one. So who are we to settle? From this moment on let’s make it our business to get back in line and make it to the finishing line. You define your own destiny if you want to continue to live in misery you will but if you want to step out and be powerful then you can it only takes one step and faith the size of a mustard seed. Be Blessed
TrinaJaye
Thursday, March 11, 2010
Monday, March 8, 2010
Getting Over It.
People often wonder if they will experience "true love", and as women we are constantly looking for our prince charming. Sometimes settling, we often take the pauper and attempt to turn him into our prince, but that never works out unless we are truly willing to devote all of our time, energy, and soul to reaching that goal. Then if that doesn't work out the way we want too, we turn into bitter women before the age of twenty -five. We begin to preach to our other girlfriends about how men are no good or how we are just tired of being played and want something real. Well my question is, didn't you know that man was no good when you met him. Yes, the signs were there now let me prove it to you...
On your first date you went over his house, dorm room, or just by riding in his car you saw signs he wasn't your “prince charming” by the first thing he did, something simple as he didn't open the door for you, his room was mess, or he cursed after every word. But instead of leaving it there you decided to stick it out and try to change him. Well when that doesn’t work and once again our heart is broken, what is a girl to do. Here are five easy ways to getting over him and becoming the queen you are destined to be and remain happy instead of turning bitter.
1. Surround yourself with positive friends, you know the ones that will say “girl forget him” or “let’s go out tonight and have some fun” Those are the friends that you grew up with, the ones that know you the best. We all have those friends.
2. Listen to your break-up c.d. and cry your heart out but when that c.d. is over you need to be over it. Don’t replay it and definitely don’t dwell on it by playing it over and over. Please ladies we are trying to get over him not become obsessed with the break-up.
3. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him including the friends you all have made together. Yea, they are going to say you are acting funny but if they are true friends they will understand that sometimes we need our own space. If they don’t screw them, you don’t need them because you are on the road to recovery and those people will just be another obstacle that you don’t need.
4. EXCERSISE!!!!! Now I know this one might be a hard one for some in fact it was hard for me, but it works. When you get a good workout and start to see positive results you will feel better.
5. Self-Motivate yourself, encourage yourself to do better by setting goals in your life to accomplish and focus on them.
Now you see I DIDN’T SAY start dating again because you don’t need that added on stress. The stress of wondering if he is going to “dog you out” like the other guy did or is he going to call the next day, come on ladies you know how we think. Also please don’t blow the ex phone up trying to see what he is doing or if he is dating anyone else. And the biggest NO –NO, let’s not become facebook stalkers and try to see what he is doing-we all have been guilty of that including me. But it’s ok as long as you admit you have a problem and you stop doing it. Also, revenge is never the answer don’t become friends with the girl he is trying to be with and mess up things for them. Please don’t slash his tires or put sugar and flour in his tank it’s not worth a case, because Karma will come back to you remember that. Take care ladies and remember love yourself and everything will work out and your prince will come but first we got to stop fooling with paupers and kiss a few frogs, and it has to be one that can talk don’t just kiss any and every frog. It worked for Tiana in The Princess and the Frog”, who knows it might work for us!!!! Be Blessed.
On your first date you went over his house, dorm room, or just by riding in his car you saw signs he wasn't your “prince charming” by the first thing he did, something simple as he didn't open the door for you, his room was mess, or he cursed after every word. But instead of leaving it there you decided to stick it out and try to change him. Well when that doesn’t work and once again our heart is broken, what is a girl to do. Here are five easy ways to getting over him and becoming the queen you are destined to be and remain happy instead of turning bitter.
1. Surround yourself with positive friends, you know the ones that will say “girl forget him” or “let’s go out tonight and have some fun” Those are the friends that you grew up with, the ones that know you the best. We all have those friends.
2. Listen to your break-up c.d. and cry your heart out but when that c.d. is over you need to be over it. Don’t replay it and definitely don’t dwell on it by playing it over and over. Please ladies we are trying to get over him not become obsessed with the break-up.
3. Get rid of everything that reminds you of him including the friends you all have made together. Yea, they are going to say you are acting funny but if they are true friends they will understand that sometimes we need our own space. If they don’t screw them, you don’t need them because you are on the road to recovery and those people will just be another obstacle that you don’t need.
4. EXCERSISE!!!!! Now I know this one might be a hard one for some in fact it was hard for me, but it works. When you get a good workout and start to see positive results you will feel better.
5. Self-Motivate yourself, encourage yourself to do better by setting goals in your life to accomplish and focus on them.
Now you see I DIDN’T SAY start dating again because you don’t need that added on stress. The stress of wondering if he is going to “dog you out” like the other guy did or is he going to call the next day, come on ladies you know how we think. Also please don’t blow the ex phone up trying to see what he is doing or if he is dating anyone else. And the biggest NO –NO, let’s not become facebook stalkers and try to see what he is doing-we all have been guilty of that including me. But it’s ok as long as you admit you have a problem and you stop doing it. Also, revenge is never the answer don’t become friends with the girl he is trying to be with and mess up things for them. Please don’t slash his tires or put sugar and flour in his tank it’s not worth a case, because Karma will come back to you remember that. Take care ladies and remember love yourself and everything will work out and your prince will come but first we got to stop fooling with paupers and kiss a few frogs, and it has to be one that can talk don’t just kiss any and every frog. It worked for Tiana in The Princess and the Frog”, who knows it might work for us!!!! Be Blessed.
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