Be the You, Are Destined To Be

Chrisette Michele said it best” It’s time to start acting right, get myself together, grow up and get my mind right…. Time to start making big girl doe and step out my jeans and put my grown clothes own …I’m a big girl now”. When are we as women going to step out and grow up? We constantly say we are on our “grown woman” but are we truly grown or are we just playing make-believe.


Black women in today’s society are constantly screaming they are independent and how they don’t need a man. We say we are all about our “poker chips” but when the chips are gone we hold our hand out to the nearest man to suffice our monetary needs , well at least until the next check come, right. Even when the checks are in we still feel as if they are suppose to take care of us when we are truly suppose to take care of them. Remember we are the caregiver and he is the protector. For years women have been the backbone of our society, through history lessons it has been proven that we can make it on our own, we can hold the home down and we can be independent while during so.


Many women have lost sight of this aspect of being a woman. We constantly hide behind our families to help us find our way and push us in the right direction, instead of stepping out on faith. While some, instead of relying on their family, marry the first guy that say he loves them, not knowing that a marriage is a lifetime commitment and a lot of these guys out here are not ready for that, causing the woman to be a single parent while still married. We have to get it together ladies if not we will never become the person we are destined to be and in return settling for a life of misery, depression and regret.


Now I know there are some women who have their “ish” together and on a path of good fortune, fun times, and true happiness and we should salute those women, but there are many who have begun to settle for the life they have fallen into and it is sad. We need to get back to the basics and do what makes us happy. If going to school makes you happy, do it. If starting your own business makes you happy, do it. Just do it, no more excuses and no more what-if’s, remember Rome wasn’t built in a day and neither were you. Be the you, are destined to be and stop settling for less, remember we are descendants of kings and queens. We come from a place where women held the home down with a man or without one. So who are we to settle? From this moment on let’s make it our business to get back in line and make it to the finishing line. You define your own destiny if you want to continue to live in misery you will but if you want to step out and be powerful then you can it only takes one step and faith the size of a mustard seed. Be Blessed


TrinaJaye